What I Have Learnt In My 30s

It was my birthday earlier this month. I am 35. I like this age. In fact I like my thirties. I think its my favourite decade so far for a number of reasons. The main reason is I have developed a much stronger sense of couldn’t carelessness especially with regards what others may think of me, that I was lacking when I was younger. It really does make life easier. It is my favourite thing about my 30s.

not a single fuck

Here are  some others things I do now that I would never have done in my twenties and things I have learned in my 30s.

  • I do not try to hide my singing and dancing in the car. If someone in the next line of traffic sees me, I smile at them instead of pretending I wasn’t singing aloud to gangsta rap.
  • I talk to strangers more. I randomly start chatting to people in queues and in shops.
  • I have a much greater respect for coffee and its importance in life.
  • I understand the importance of a decent bra.
  • I have been known to wear track suit bottoms outside the house and the sky did not fall in. For outside wear in emergency purposes only, of course.
  • Heels are over rated. It’s ok for comfort to trump additional height.
  • It is better to answer blocked numbers on the phone and be honest with financial institutions that you owe money to. Ignoring them does not make them go away.
  • Naps are a thing of beauty.
  • You are responsible for your own happiness.
  • Quickies are not a bad thing.
  • Good eyebrows can act like a mini face lift.
  • Shots should only be drunk sparingly and on special occasions, if ever.
  • If you’re not happy, say it. People are not mind readers.
  • Depression is a lot more common than I thought.
  • If you need help, ask for it. It wont always be offered.
  • Marriage is more about compromise than fairy tales and that is a good thing.
  • Sometimes being handed dinner and promised a sleep in is as romantic as fuck.
  • Good friends should never be taken for granted and that its ok if you don’t see your friends every week, they are still your friends.
  • Sometimes you just need to spend €40 on new pyjamas, hair bobbins and a top you may never wear In Penneys and the world will look brighter again.
  • Nobody really gives a fiddlers what you look like on the beach, only you.
  • The importance of counting blessings.
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What’s on your list?

21 thoughts on “What I Have Learnt In My 30s

  1. Writer / Mummy says:

    I agree with every single point, especially the heels!

    I’m still learning to ignore what others think, personally and professionally, but I’m going in the right direction I hope.

      • Catherine Hughes McEvoy says:

        Agreed. This is something I really need to do too. I actually fell over on Sunday while wearing a pair of unsuitable heels!! But since I’m in my 40’s not a single gram of f**k was given when several people witnessed the incident 😉

      • Anne Ferris says:

        Love your blog. It really makes me laugh. Agree with you on the shoe front. I have taken over the bottom of my daughters wardrobe with shoe boxes which only ever see the light of day once once every blue moon and my sons wardrobe with dresses and jackets which have gone down the same path. My sons friend was here shortly after he started school last Sept and for whatever reason they opened the wardrobe and I could hear his friend saying “where do you keep your clothes”. Didn’t get to comment at the time but your post regarding the lost school bag had me in tears. x

  2. SusieChopstick says:

    I was 40 in May. I will miss my thirties, during which I got married to a wonderful man and had three gorgeous children. I’m looking forward to compiling a list for my 40s, and I think that many of yours will apply .

    But as well as this…

    1. Never again will I be able to say to someone – ‘I’m almost 40!’ ‘I am 40’ has a much more final ring to it! My seven year old told me I was ‘middle aged’ the other day!
    2. I am suddenly in the age bracket that needs regular mammograms, smear tests and cholesterol tests, dental checkups, eye exams – the glasses just got stronger…and my hair got a little weaker…
    3. It is never too late to start exercising regularly. Ok, I’ll never look 16 again – but I can aim for 35…(and this is where the all important bra plays a part!)
    4. Continue to stand up straight. And if the cares of the last few years have you slouching, stand up straight. Bad posture makes you feel worse. It’s amazing how much better you look-and feel – if you do this one thing.
    5. Don’t be afraid to let a little grey show in your hair. It’s better than bleaching it half to death, which just makes you look like Mick Wallace.
    6.. The whole marriage thing – what you said.
    7. The whole lie-in thing. Saturday mornings are now for SLEEPING. Though to be honest I think that has more to do with having kids than it does your age…
    8. It’s not bad parenting/a sin/morally wrong to enjoy time away from your children. If you don’t nourish yourself, you can’t nourish them.
    9. Try to smile at someone at least once a day.

    I think I’ll stop before I begin to sound too like Baz Luhrmann.

    • Lucy says:

      As with all your posts I laughed out loud! Totally relate to that list as a fellow ‘mid’ thirty something! (I’m hanging on to the mid thirty label – despite the ‘late’ thirty label looming) 🙂

  3. dhonour says:

    As the first commenter noted, your 40s will be even better. I am 43 next month and I have never been more secure in who I am, how I look, what I like, don’t like and on and on. And it shines through to those around you. When you don’t give a fuck, you glow ;-).

  4. Tinman says:

    Gangsta rap is fine. I was in the car yesterday and Please Forgive Me by David Gray, which I haven’t heard for years, came on the radio, and I realised after a few minutes that not only was I singing along, I was doing that weird head-rolling thing that he used to do while he was playing the piano. It’s hard to look cool after that.

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